“I don’t want sympathy.  I just want someone to tell me I’m gonna make it.”

I read that on a forum for divorced and heartbroken people recently.  The poor guy was in anguish.

Without question, heartbreak hurts like hell.

Part of that pain, along with the shock, the anger and the grief of losing love, is great big fear.

The fear that you will never feel good about yourself or life again is compounded because, whatever way you turn it, you’ve just been rejected.

I went through this more times than I care to count, but you can add in two divorces along with being the “dumpee” rather than the “dumper” on most occasions.  This went on until I was in my late thirties, by which time I’d decided that relationships just weren’t for me!

Loveless and lonely was how I considered my journey through this life was going to be.

Now, to save you worrying, this story has a happy ending.  I’m very happily married – and have been since 2006 – so there really is a way out.

One of the keys for me was accepting that of all the relationships I’d been in, I was the common denominator!

That doesn’t mean I beat myself or blamed myself for everything that happened.  (Heaven knows, there’s enough of that going on at the time of the split.  It’s pointless and useless – don’t do it.)

What I mean is, I figured that if I showed up differently around women, I’d get not only a different response from them, but I’d also attract a different class of women.  Not in the “better looking” sense – but in the sense that I’d attract people who were also self assured.

It worked.

My life is blissfully happy these days. Here I am with my lovely wife …

Will it work for anyone?

Yes. I believe it will.

If you’d like to know more about how you can turn your heartbreak into triumph, I’ve explained about my system for complete recovery here >>> (Just click this link.)

I hope you heal soon.

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