Why Can’t It Just Rain Money?

Why Can’t It Just Rain Money?

In my life, I’ve met people with all kinds of attitudes to money.

Some have had perpetually empty bank accounts and it drives them crazy. Making more money is all they think about – and mostly what they never get. When some does come their way, it’s spent in moments.

Others have had plenty – a few I’d even class as wealthy. Of those, some are generous whilst others are penny-pinching, even mean. Some have let their money define them, others leave it in the background of their lives in much the same way as most of us regard – or rather disregard – the wallpaper or paint on the walls in our homes. It’s just there.

But there have been some folks who have a very distinctive and interesting attitude to money.

The people I’m talking about are not rich. Often they have next to nothing. Sometimes they actually have nothing – although that never lasts very long with this group.

These folks are special.

Their attitude to money is that it will go … and it will come. It will always come.

They never worry about money. I mean never.

(One of the people I’m thinking of has now become very wealthy and once told me that he has never understood worrying about money.)

Why Do They Never Worry About Money?

Because they know they can always get some more.

Their cash will never run out, even if their bank account on a given day is completely empty.

How do they do this?

They don’t do anything illegal or immoral. They merely understand what money is and where it really, really comes from.

They know exactly why it changes hands.

To have those understandings they don’t need degrees in economics. They don’t understand investment strategies. Many of them don’t even have savings. Money simply flows in and out of their lives just as the tides flow into and away from the shore.

Even when it’s far out and you can’t see it, you know it’s coming back. Sometimes in little waves, sometimes in huge breakers that crash onto the beaches. But it’s definitely coming!

When you know that about money, when you know you can always get more of it and that even when it runs low it’s always coming back, isn’t that what financial security really means?

When you aren’t worried about how you’ll get some more but instead tell yourself that you will get some more – just like when you run low on bread you pop round to the corner store or maybe the supermarket and get some more – isn’t that true financial security?

Suppose Money Was Like Bread …

What if your financial security was like your bread security? When it runs low you get – or bake – some more.

Somehow, we’ve put money in a different category to other commodities but really there’s no reason to do that.

Except perhaps one.

If you run low on bread, usually you’ll exchange some money for the next loaf. But if you run low on money, what do you exchange?

This is where we tend to get stuck, but I’ve discovered that the non-worriers don’t.

Some years ago, a friend of mine unexpectedly lost his job. Being a non-worrier, apart from the shock, (the decision was made with incredible speed), he appeared completely unfazed by his new financial situation.

I asked him how he stayed so cool about having lost his income. His answer has never left me.

He said, “My job isn’t my resource. My bank balance isn’t my resource. I am. Tomorrow, if I can’t think of a way to put a meal in my belly and keep the roof over my head, there’s something wrong with me!”

Sure enough, within a few days, paying customers were lining up for him.

It was a great answer. But that degree of self assuredness doesn’t come easily or even naturally to all of us. It didn’t to me.

As so often has been the case in my life, having discovered that something is possible – in this case having a constant flow of money no matter what – I went the slow road to finding out how it’s done.

The bad part about that trait is that it sometimes takes me ages to get somewhere.

The good part is, that having got there, I know I can always go there again. That mentality of not worrying about money came naturally to my friend so he didn’t know how to transmit it to me.

But I have figured it out, finally.

I’ve already had money come “from thin air.”

It’s not a coincidence or luck. The money was nice. But what is truly wonderful is the peace of mind. There will never be a reason for me to run out of money.

That’s real financial security.

I’ve put a training together where I’ll show you, if you’d like, how you can have this freeing attitude to money too.

Everything you need to know, including how to purchase a ticket for the training, is on the following web page:

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And so, as it turns out, it can rain money!

Why Being A Pessimist Matters

Why Being A Pessimist Matters

The old glass half full/half empty debate has kept many a beer-fuelled conversation going – at least it did in my student days.

But does it really matter which side of the fence you come down on?

Before I answer that, I’d like you to consider a well known phenomenon we’re all familiar with.  Have you ever bought a new car – I mean one that’s a new make, model and colour for you – and suddenly noticed they’re everywhere?

Where were they before?

Well, of course they were there then too, but your brain didn’t register them as important so you took no notice.

This is a well documented psychological phenomenon.

So, if you’re a pessimist, you’ll naturally notice all the faults in any plan.  You’ll see reasons why your marriage won’t last and you’ll expect your health to fail.

It’s hardly a recipe for a happy life, is it?

Of course, the pessimistic readers out there will argue that it works fine because it protects them from failure and disappointment, but the truth is, their whole life is a disappointment.

The glass-half-full brigade, on the other hand, will be actively seeking out opportunities, carving them where perhaps they didn’t exist before.  They tend not to ask how but to go for a “I’ll figure it out” approach to challenges and obstacles.

This principle applies to anything.

If you’re insecure, you’ll notice signs of rejection.  A pause in a conversation may become a meaningful silence, indicating the other person doesn’t want to talk to you, for example.

Whereas to a self confident person, it’s just the other person being quiet or thoughtful.  Self confident people don’t take it personally.

The patterns aren’t difficult to spot.  I could come up with lots more examples, but you can probably do that for yourself.

The question is: Is there anything we can do about it?

I’ve had clients who’ve told me about terrible things they’ve been through and they explain how they’ve been hurt by life.

I have great compassion for such tales, but I’ve learned that neither empathy nor sympathy helps them.

You see, the reason they tell me – or any transformative professional, such as a counsellor or psychotherapist – is because they’ve decided that their experiences justify their fear of the future.

Before I met my lovely wife in 2006, I spent quite a bit of time on internet dating sites.  I met some lovely women – some real characters among them.  But I never formed a long-term or “meaningful” relationship with any of them.

Why?

Well, of course there were multiple reasons but eventually I figured out that most people using those sites, (me included at the time!), had one thing in common:

We’d all been hurt in love before!

And so at every date, we’d be mentally dancing around each other to look for the warning signs.

One woman even told me she really liked me so she wasn’t going to see me again in case she fell in love with me!

(How’s that for mixed messages?)

Fortunately, I knew enough about NLP to realise that, having spotted my own pattern of “don’t get close in case you hurt me,” I could change it.

And I did.

Had I not done so, it’s highly unlikely I’d be heading for the 10th anniversary of a wonderful marriage now.

I know that sounds like an “easier-said-than-done” throwaway line but in fact I probably made it harder than it needs to be.

I did know some techniques which I used on myself.  But now I get that I could have got Harry Potter to do one of his spells on me and it would have worked – as long as I’d believed in it.

The techniques I deployed may have been the agent for change, but what really made the difference was simply changing the way I thought about my situation.  I just saw that it wasn’t the situation that was causing my fears about love and commitment – it was my thoughts about the situation, love, relationships … and all that jazz!

When my thoughts changed, my life changed.

Why Is Change So Difficult?

I was going to end this article but I can’t leave it there, can I?

Everyone will be screaming back at their computers claiming they can’t change.

If they could change, they’d have done it, wouldn’t they?

It’s okay.

I’d be right there along with you.  Or at least, I would have been until relatively recently.

Once again, there’s a false assumption behind the questions and our seeming inability to change at will.

It’s because it doesn’t require will power!

We think we have to do it all.

But that’s like saying, “I’ll have to have a couple of hours off tomorrow.  I need to grow my fingernails.”

Years ago there was a sitcom on British TV set in a department store.  One character, Mrs. Slocombe, (played by the late, great Mollie Sugden), was a middle aged lady in charge of a department – lingerie I think.

One day, she declared pompously to the boss, “I won’t be in tomorrow afternoon.  I’m having my hair done.”

To which he replied, “In the firm’s time?”

She stated indignantly, “Well, it grows in the firm’s time!”

Nature takes care of so much, yet when it comes to our patterns of thought and habits we think we must have made them so we’d better unmake them.

But we don’t make them, do we?

Nobody sits down and consciously decides to look for the negative in life.  It’s just that, when we’ve done it for long enough and maybe enough people have told us that we have that outlook, then we take it as fact.

At that point we conclude that it must be part of our personality.

As if it was fixed in stone.

As if it were true.

It’s true if you keep telling yourself – and others – that that’s what you’re like.

I have an idea for you.

Go to YouTube and watch a Charlie Chaplin movie.  Watch him dig himself into some hopeless hole.  And laugh at him, of course.  Nobody behaves like that in real life.

Except, of course, we all do.

That’s why he’s so funny – even a hundred years on.  We can identify with him.

When you’ve done that, take a five minute break, close your eyes and watch your own negative thoughts about anything.

About your love life, if you’re in that place.  Or your money situation.  Or a business issue.  Or a global one.

But watch them like a Chaplin movie.  Don’t try and change a thing.  But notice that you can watch your own thoughts.

And there’s a watcher who isn’t having any of those thoughts at all!

The watcher is as detached from the thoughts as you were from Charlie C.

Do you get it?

You’re not your thoughts, in just the same way that you’re not your fingernails.

Leave them alone and they’ll adjust themselves all on their own.

Your nature is to be happy, playful and positive.  Watch any infant and you’ll see that’s true.

There’s no such thing as a “born worrier.”

You don’t have to change your mind.  You only have to leave it alone.

And that’s why being a pessimist matters.

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The Lost Ways – Full Review

The Lost Ways – Review

According to the story, a lost book, believed to have been long consigned to the dustbin of history was found in a dusty drawer in an old house in Austin, Texas which belonged to a guy Claude Davis.

Neighbours stated that for the last couple of years Claude has tried to unearth and learn the forgotten ways of our great-grandparents and claimed to have found a secret of gargantuan proportions. A secret that he is about to reveal together with 3 old teachings that will change everything you think you know about preparedness.

Whether the legend is true or has been embellished doesn’t really matter.  The contents are certainly eye-opening, and at the very least, fun.

Home Security

A section of the book, for example, deals with home security measures that were used by our great-grandfathers 150 years ago.

What’s astonishing about these measures is that, without the benefit of cameras or all our intricate modern technology, they are very sound and workable measures that would still work today!

Survival Food

Another section of the book covers a recipe for a high energy survival food known as Pemmican.  I have to confess it doesn’t look super-appetising, but if you’re out trekking through the jungle – or maybe the desert – it’s definitely a recipe you’d want to know.

It’s easy to carry and, allegedly, a little of it can give a grown man enough energy to last a whole day.  (I do imagine that depends what he’s doing, but it IS survival food and looking at the ingredients and the density of the food, I’m willing to believe it.)

Wild Lettuce Natural Painkiller Recipe

You can watch every step of wild lettuce painkiller – apparently as good as an opiate but entirely legal – is made in this guy’s kitchen.

Watch the full video HERE…

Overall

The Lost Ways probably isn’t your average bedtime read, I’ll be honest.

But, if you’re interested in old remedies, survival tactics that have stood the test of time or just the ingenuity of our forefathers, then this is a mine of information as well as entertainment.

The publishers have realised that some people will want to own The Lost Ways as a physical book and so it’s offered that way too for the same price as the digital version with just the addition of postage.

See The Lost Ways for yourself HERE …

How To Have A Winner’s Mindset

When it comes to winners, it would be hard to come up with a better role model than Sir Mo Farah – the hugely successful Olympic gold medallist.

Have you ever seen or heard Mo interviewed?

Listen to what he says about his state of mind – because although most of us won’t ever become Olympic medallists you CAN learn how to model a champion’s mindset to win at whatever is important to YOU in life.

In the 2016 Olympics, Mo fell in a race and STILL went on to win gold!  And what he said afterwards about his presence of mind and his decision to get up and continue running – when every thousandth of a second counted – is the stuff of legend.

Now, I have a program about mindset – it’s called “Knowing Where To Knock” and I’ve decided to put it on a “race to the finish” basis just for this weekend.

(>>> All the details are HERE…)

Here’s what I’ve done:

The price for the full program is usually $27, but I’ve reduced it just for the next three days. However, each day for the next 3 days it will automatically rise by $2.50 until it caps again at $27, so the sooner you buy it, the less you’ll pay.

Decision makers win, procrastinators lose out.  Simple, eh?

PLUS – I’ve included a special “MoBo Bonus” – inspired by Sir Mo’s incredible thought processes – even in a nightmare situation – but it won’t be there for long.

I won’t keep you any longer because, depending on when you’re reading this, the clock may click over to the next price rise … so download your copy today.

Here’s the link >>> http://wizardofwisdom.com/knowing-where-to-knock-program-2/

Happy knocking!

All good things,

Trevor.

P.S. The sales page is a little old fashioned and may not look great if you’re opening it on a phone.  Sorry – but all the links work and you can download everything – including the MoBo Bonus from any device.  Remember, the price will rise $2.50 a day – so get in quick!

Can You Stop Living In The Past?

How Do You Stop Living In The Past … When It Still Hurts?

Tony Robbins always added a caveat to his maxim about living in the past when I was learning from him.

He’d say, “The past does not equal the future,” and then add, “unless you live there.”

That’s a vital rider because I’ve come across many people who’d love to know how to stop dwelling on bygone days.  They got hurt, too hurt, and now they’re afraid of getting hurt again.  “Damage limitation,” they say.

It’s understandable. 

Suppose they had their heart broken.  That happened to me more than once and the gnawing, hollow, silent scream that never seems to end can sound mighty loud whenever the possibility of a new relationship hoves into view.

Perhaps they had their fingers burned on some financial deal or business opportunity.  It makes sense to play it safe forever more and stick to a steady job and perhaps look forward to a lonely but emotionally painless, (or maybe numb), old age.

It sounds sensible but it’s actually awful.

If you’re in this kind of situation, you already know what I’m talking about.  Whenever you find yourself looking forward, you immediately find yourself looking back.  It’s not with nostalgia though.  It’s with terror.

What’s more, common sense won’t cut any mustard.  You can easily understand that the person who wants to be your new lover isn’t the one who hurt you, but that doesn’t mean you can trust him or her to not turn out the same way.

The successful entrepreneur who wants to invest in your idea may not be the one who left you high and dry, but that’s not to say they wouldn’t.

You trust no one.  Not even yourself.  The only thing you’re left trusting is fear itself, and it’s holding you prisoner.

The great Earl Nightingale, the man who told us that “we become what we think about,” put it best when he said,

“Most people tiptoe through life hoping to make it safely to the grave.”

Oh boy!

Who wants that as an epitaph?

Life is a risky game, but just how do you stop living in the past when it hurt you so badly?

How can you tip the odds of winning in your favour?

Do you wait until enough time has elapsed?

Do you consider all the antecedents of whatever happened to you so that you can remove every possible tripwire before you make a move?

The problem with those types of solutions is that you can never be sure you’ve got there.

How Can There Be An Answer?

A shift in perspective is what’s needed here.

All of those attempted solutions to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past require you to control the outside world.  Not even Superman himself ever managed that feat!

It’s not possible for you to build in so many clauses and safety valves that every possible toxic eventuality is taken care of.  You won’t ever get a guarantee of your personal safety that way.

The change must come from within.

But I Couldn’t Trust Again.

I know how you feel.

I too felt that letting go of the past would be impossible after my second wife cheated on me and then left me.  I’d had it with relationships!

In fact, I spent five years living alone, convincing myself that I was happier as a middle-aged bachelor than I would be in a relationship.

Yet the truth was, I spent many weekends from Friday evening to Monday morning without seeing or speaking to a soul. 

The television and the cat were my only companions.  While friends and colleagues would celebrate that “Friday feeling,” I’d get a nauseous, sinking sensation in the pit of my stomach, as I contemplated how on earth I was going to fill the next 48 hours.

Of course, I did have some fun along the way too, but it was a miserable, pointless existence for the most part.

I’m happy to tell you that I’ve been in a joyful marriage since 2006 … but what freed me to allow me to even meet, let alone propose to, the woman of my dreams came about due to a simple yet profound shift in perspective.

It had nothing to do with trusting her.

It had everything to do with the way I felt inside.

The principles will work for any area of life you feel stuck in.

If you’d like to understand more about how you can stop living in the past, I’d like to invite you to register for my free training, “Demolish Your Demons,” where you’ll actually see for yourself how such changes are made – and how easy they are.

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