Letter from the Editor
Dear Reader
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Wherever you are right now in your love life, it’s a fair guess that you’re here because you’ve been hurt by the ending of a relationship at least once.
So that you know, I got the T-shirt on that too – (twice divorced, many agonising heartbreaks in between and long periods of loneliness). Since 2006 I’ve been happily, joyously in love and married to a wonderful woman. We can hardly believe so much time has passed – it still feels like we’re on honeymoon!
I’m not telling you that to brag, but to let you know that there is light at the end of that long, dark tunnel.
Love Recovery News is here to help. Each month you will get articles and videos brimful of ideas to help you feel good … about yourself, life and above all, the prospect of finding and falling in love again.
We all need love, but more than that, we’re all WORTHY of love. So that’s where we’ve started – with loving yourself. That’s the foundation stone of recovery. Let that idea sink in … take it into your heart, not just your head.
And together we’ll build from there.
Keep loving yourself!
Until soon,
Trevor.
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Featured Article
The More You Love Yourself, The More Love You’ll Get Back!
When it comes to love, you get what you give.
Love yourself first before you can expect others to love you back.
Admittedly, your insecurities get in the way at times. You hone in on all your weaknesses instead of taking pride of your strengths. First, recognise that everybody does that! It’s cultural conditioning and we’re all quick to point out our imperfections, but the truth is you, along with every other living person, have many strengths.
You need to celebrate each day of your life, even if some of the times things get difficult. Life can be trying, but it can also be delicious. Your job is to consciously shift your focus so that you notice what’s working in your life, (however small it may seem right now). Then graduate to things you like about yourself, (however small they may seem at first).
Gradually, you’ll catch yourself in the act of thinking negatively and you’ll form the habit of shifting where your thoughts drift. You’ll quickly be amazed at how just even tiny conscious movements of noticing what is good in you and around you can make you feel so much better.
More importantly, know that you’re worth so much more. Take pride in who you are and what you have because you’ve worked hard to achieve so many things in life. You may not succeed in every endeavor or every love encounter, but this doesn’t mean that all hope is lost nor does it mean that you have lost your worthiness to be loved. You deserve happiness, everyone does. You are not the exception!
It’s time to take back what’s yours and to look forward to what you can make of your future. You have so much potential in you. As long as you have the strength to get out of bed each day, you can create a future of your dreams.
Getting Out of the Rut
With all of that said, know that it’s okay to feel depressed every now and then. Yes, you need to sulk some of the times. Cry for all your failures but refuse to let your emotions rule you. Just know that if you had everything handed to you on a silver platter, you’ll never get to really appreciate your blessings.
Being human isn’t about always having a stoic stiff upper lip; it’s about being able to fully allow the complete range of emotions – even though sometimes you hurt. Pain can be a release – and also a signal to know that something has to change. Without it, you’d be numb all the time – hardly a great way to live!
Feelings of satisfaction come when you’re able to overcome barriers. It’s necessary to know that there are also good times in store and that it’s all up to you to change things for the better. After you’re done with all the whining, make a promise to yourself to do better. Don’t dwell too much on all the pain because you’ve already done that. Instead, summon the strength to push forward.
Go Out with People Who Appreciate You
Admittedly, you do meet toxic people along the way. Don’t let them get to you. They’re also dealing with their own issues. If you stay with them, (or let them cling to you), they’ll use you as their scapegoat. Neither of you will feel better this way, so find a kind way to part company as soon as you suspect that’s going on.
Then, there are the successful ones. Don’t measure yourself against them. Rather, see them as your inspiration and recognize your own uniqueness. Success can be defined in so many ways. What works for some may not always work for you.
Focus on what you have and stop comparing yourself to those whom you think are better. Set realistic goals instead because you can achieve more when you’re aware of what you’re capable of. Take time to enjoy life. Pretty soon, you’ll attract partners who’ll appreciate you for being you.
The Secret
The ultimate secret to being happy with your relationships is to take time to do the things you love most. Because you’ll be surprised at how this simple decision can give you back the energy that’s been depleted by all that negativity.
Take a look at everything you have. Every single blessing counts. The little things are just as important as the big things. This is when you start rearranging your priorities.
Work hard at improving every single thing a step at a time. If you need to alter some aspects in your life, go ahead and do it. Just make sure you do all these for you, and not for someone else. The change could actually be refreshing.
Then soon enough, you’ll get to see how life starts to unfold. Love is just around the bend, but you will only meet it if you look inside first.
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