Every self development “guru” out there tells us to set goals. “Failing to plan is planning to fail” goes the now not-so-new adage.
But there’s a take on goals that I think is worth considering and it’s this:
Goals can lead to frustration, self recrimination and disappointment. It takes, after all, some strength of character to see unrealised goals as “learning experiences” especially when they come clustered together.
The plain fact is, when that happens it means something didn’t work out. And that will be accompanied by all the traditional emotions such as disappointment, even anger, frustration and so on.
Do that often enough, and you’ll just quit.
So here’s my flip on it. (It’s a flip, because I’ve turned the whole notion on its head).
Instead of setting goals, decide to be the happiest, most fulfilled, loving person you can on a daily basis. As far as possible, when you have a decision to make pause for a second or two and ask yourself, “which option will make me feel the most fantastic?”
Then go for that one - which will sometimes mean doing something in the face of “common sense.” (I never wanted my sense to be common anyway! Common as muck? Not me!)
The more you can do this, the better your “luck” will become. You’ll be feeling so good all of the time that people and opportunities will start showing up in your life like a magnet.
The more you do what you love, the more things you love will present themselves to you.
Want an example? Okay - just yesterday, out of the blue, a guy called me to ask if I’d become his life coach. I love coaching. Why did he call? Because I wrote an article about life coaching which was published in a local magazine. And I happen to love writing about what I love too.
I got no payment for the article. I wrote it for sheer pleasure.
Set no goals. Just be the best you can be - (being selfish about it - read Revolutionary Resolution #1 for this!) - and let life bring you all the riches you desire. It simply will!
Until soon.
All good things
Trevor. (Wizard of Wisdom )
