Lost your confidence? That’s a tough call - especially when it comes to doing a spot of chatting up.

I’m here to tell you that there’s always a resource at your command that will get you up and running in the seduction stakes in minutes - and it’s extraordinarily powerful! That resource is … the bank? No! Your acupuncurist? No! The government … erm, no.

The resource, which can never be taken from you, is your own mind!

As a human being you are a member of a species which is quite possibly unique in its ability to change its mind! In other words – you can decide what to think! And once you do that, you will change what you feel.

If you’re beating up on yourself, remember this: at any moment you can choose what your next thought will be. So decide right now: will it be one that’s going to make you feel better than you do in this moment, or worse?

Suppose your thoughts go something like this….

“I’m just no good with women. The gorgeous ones always get snapped up by some guy that’s better looking than me … If only I had a six-pack…”

Get the violins out!

Here’s the antidote… Ready?

First, catch yourself doing your negativity thing, then STOP yourself, right there!

Second, ask yourself, “On a scale of 1 to 100 of confidence, with 1 being the lowest I’ve ever felt, and 100 being unstoppable confidence, where am I now?”

Wait for your brain to come up with an answer. It’ll probably say something like 33, or 2 or 80 … just feel it like you were weighing things with your hands until you settle on a number. Don’t ask me how this works - it just does!

Third … Suppose the answer was “27.” Now ask yourself, “What could I do that would get me to a 28?” It doesn’t have to be a hundred - you won’t make that kind of leap in one go. Just one little notch…

And then wait for the answer.

It might be, get a haircut. Or just email the word “Hi” to the woman you spotted on that dating site yesterday. It might be to spend 5 minutes meditating, or it could be that you listen to your favourite rock band at full blast. (Don’t wake the neighbours!)

See? You just do the littlest thing required to start the upward spiral off again … pretty soon you’ll find you’re a lot closer to 100 than you imagined you’d get to!

But by then, you’ll have forgotten about the scale because you’ll be chatting to some gorgeous woman …